TANTRA is an ancient spiritual path with profound contemporary implications. In tantra the human body is seen as energy and information. This energy and information has been acquiring mass and content since the beginning of time. We receive some of this information from our ancestral line, delivered to us in the form of our DNA. And some of it comes from both the collective consciousness, and some from the culture we live in.
When we come together with another person our initial interactions may be heavily influenced by the dance of our hormones and the desires of our imaginations that tell us what relationship bliss might feel like….the ‘Happily Ever After’ fairytale many of us were raised on. Then, as time goes on people begin to experience the deeper layers of themselves and their partners that were not necessarily accessible before the intimacy reached certain levels of familiarity. And the fairy tale notion begins to crumble under the weight of reality setting in. Life stresses may pile up on top of that and people often begin to separate, sometimes just to keep the stress at a somewhat manageable level. Often this can lead to a situation wherein couples may begin to feel more like roommates than lovers. And in the worse case scenario, it winds up as divorce.
When I work with couples in various stages of this situation, from new relationships to ones that have traversed decades, I help them come to terms with the things that are not allowing them to be close and connected, and help them with a plan for deepening their connection. Sometimes there is a difference in their picture of relationship that needs to be resolved. Sometimes there’s been an indiscretion or unfaithfulness that needs to be dealt with and forgiven. Sometimes there are conflicts about money or children, or in-laws. The challenges to love are often varied and multiple.
The good news is that most problems can be resolved when they are shared with a trusted professional, and when a couple is inspired to REKINDLE the love they had when they first came together. I’ve seen this happen time and time again with tantra inspired relationship coaching and counseling.
It’s hardly ever too late to REKINDLE the closeness when people are inspired, motivated and gently encouraged to return to the love.